Are you happy with who you've become?
We know that making and sustaining change is not easy, but we also know that change is possible. If you want to take responsibility for your abusive behaviour and change your approach to your relationships, we can help.
If you're unsure about your behaviour, you can see examples of the behaviour we work with here.
If you are female and concerned about your behaviour, please see our Women's Programme information here.
The Bridging to Change Programme is a long-term behaviour change programme for men who are abusive towards their intimate partners and/or ex-partners. We have been running this programme for over 10 years and have a very experienced team who can support you through change.
Our practitioners will take a non-judgemental approach, but will assertively engage with you and provide appropriate challenge to your behaviour. Through techniques around Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Mindfulness and others, they will help you to recognise your behaviour, where it is coming from and how to change these patterns.
If you join our programme, you will work through themes such as; respect and negotiation, non-violent behaviour, intimacy and vulnerability, support and trust, sexual respect and child-centred parenting.
The aim of the programme is to:
- Support you in changing your abusive and controlling behaviour
- Take positive steps to improve the safety of those around you
- Take responsibility for ending your abuse
- Recognise behaviour that is unacceptable and must be challenged
- Improve the quality of life for others and for yourself
The programme consist of:
- An initial assessment with our specialist team to discuss the programme and assess suitability
- Up to 10 individual 1 hour sessions with an experienced practitioner
- 30 group sessions where you will work alongside other men who are also on the programme
Upon completion of the programme, you also have the opportunity to join our Relapse Prevention Group, which runs once a month. This group provides a supportive and accountable environment to ensure you are putting the learnings from Bridging to Change into practice.
We would welcome supporting you on this programme if:
- You feel your behaviour might be abusive and you want to understand this better
- Your behaviour has affected your partner, ex-partner or children
- You want to take time to stop any abusive behaviour
We also require participants to attend all the sessions at the same time each week. We expect people may need to take a few weeks off for various reasons such as holiday, or sickness periods. However, other than these circumstances we have a strict attendance policy so we ask for a strong commitment from those on the programme, in order to ensure we can work with them effectively.
Other suitability considerations:
- You must be at least 18
- Your spoken English needs to be good enough to take part in group sessions, as we are not able to have interpreters in the group
- We want you to be able to participate fully in our programme and therefore, if you have any current drink or drug misuse problems or mental health concerns that will prevent you doing so, then you may not suitable at this time
- There must be no on-going criminal proceedings and no on-going or impending child contact disputes in the Family Courts. If there is a contact dispute, the referral must come from Cafcass. Similarly, if there are any safeguarding or child protection concerns and Children and Families Services are involved, then the referral must come from them.
Before I started, I was apprehensive as I thought my abusive behaviour was everyone else's fault, not my own.To say this program has changed my life is an understatement. It shows you how to follow a new path that is non-abusive and non-violent. All the modules help you to change in many different ways and allow you to learn how to be a better person in a close knit, like- minded way
Partner, Ex-Partner & Children's Support
If you choose to work with us to change your behaviour, we request that you provide us with the details of anybody who has been affected by your behaviour. This can be current and/or ex-partners and children if you have them. As part of your agreement to work with us, we will contact your partner and/or ex-partners to also offer them and any children or young people involved some support.
You can learn more about our support for partners and ex-partners here.
You can learn more about the support available for children here.
It is important to remember that changing abusive behaviour is always a positive step to take. Don't feel it's ever too early or too late to decide to change these patterns. If you recognise any of this behaviour and would like to make positive changes in your life, we want to work with you.
If you are involved with Cafcass or Children's Services, please speak with them to arrange a referral to our programme.
If you want to talk to someone right now about your behaviour you can always call the Respect Phoneline on 0808 8024040. It is free from most landlines and mobile phones. An advisor will be there to listen and help. More details are on their website.