Bridging to Change work with both male and female perpetrators.
We know that making and sustaining change is not easy. We are here to support you. We know that change is possible. We know how much you, your partner, and your children stand to benefit if you really commit to replacing old, abusive patterns of behaviour with new, respectful and caring ones.
The Bridging to Change intervention was one of eleven Respect accredited programmes which were the sites for the Mirabal Research Project. This was the biggest domestic abuse-related research project in the UK to date, spanning 3 years.
The research looked at the effectiveness of Domestic Violence Prevention Programmes (DVPPs) and how they impact on the safety of victims. One of the important conclusions for us was the evidence it provided that the way we work – with an integrated support service for victims alongside our work with perpetrators – is effective and safe for a majority of our clients.
You can read more about the research here.
Our men’s programme consists of 5 to 10 individual usually weekly sessions (1 hour) and 30 group weekly sessions (2 hours). We currently run groups on two evenings and one during the daytime. As the programme is a rolling one, you can join at any time.
What you need to know about attending
In assessing whether you’re suitable for our programme, we’ll be looking at whether you:
- Acknowledge that you have behaved abusively towards your partner/ex-partner and are willing to accept that you are responsible for your behaviour,
- Want to change,
- You are able to attend all the sessions usually at the same time each week (we expect that people might need to take a couple of weeks off for various reasons, such as holiday or, sickness during the programme however, other than such circumstances, we have a strict attendance policy and men not sticking to this are issued with warnings and risk being excluded,
- Are willing to give us your consent for us to contact your partners and ex-partners.
- We want you to be able to not only attend but to participate fully in our programme and therefore, if you have any current drink or drug misuse problems or mental health concerns that will prevent you doing so, then you may not suitable at this time.
- There must be no on-going criminal proceedings and no on-going or impending child contact disputes in the Family Courts. If there is a contact dispute, the referral must come from Cafcass. Similarly, if there are any safeguarding or child protection concerns and Children and Families Services are involved, then the referral must come from them.
- Your spoken English needs to be good enough to take part in group sessions as we are not able to have interpreters in the group.
- You must be at least 18.
What does it cost?
If you self-refer, our fees are on a sliding scale and you pay according to your income which will be discussed on your first appointment. We do have a minimum payment of £15 per session, which is usually for people on state benefits.
If your referral is via Cafcass or Children’s Services, then they should pay our costs.
Where do I go from here?
Follow up group
Men who have completed our full programme have consistently told us that they would like a follow-up group, something less frequent but regularly available, to help them continue the work they started on the programme. Now, thanks to a generous donation from a man who’d completed the programme we’re able to provide such a facility.
These groups run on the second Tuesday of every month from 6.30pm – 8.30pm at the same venue in Trafford as the original group.
The purpose of the group is to prevent relapse into further coercive behaviours by:
- Members holding each other to account for their behaviour
- Reminding each other of the need to keep putting strategies into practice
- Staying focussed and motivated to continue working on being your best self
- Sharing what works
- Providing some reassurance for partners when the main programme finishes
Each session looks at:
- Silent attunement
- Dealing with challenges
- Looking at themes relevant to living a respectful life
Attendees have agreed to make a financial contribution of as much as they can afford, with a minimum of £10 per session.
So that numbers for each group stay at a manageable level (a maximum of 10).
As long as you have completed the Bridging to Change programme – it doesn’t matter whether it was years or weeks ago – you’re welcome to come along. It’s a great opportunity to both continue your own journey and to help others with theirs.
We look forward to seeing you there!
The most recent crime statistics show that incidents of domestic abuse make up 1 in 10 crimes and account for a third of all reported violent crimes (ONS 2016). There is a growing number of men reporting that they too are victims of domestic abuse. Women still make up the vast majority of victims (1.2 million women to 651,000 men) and are still overwhelmingly more likely to be killed by a male ex/partner. Among women murdered by a partner or ex-partner, 97% were killed by a man, while among male domestic homicide victims only a third were killed by a woman.(ONS 2016) However it is concerning that some women are perpetrating abuse and violence towards their partner with little or no intervention to help curb or stop this behaviour.
Here at Bridging to Change, we have successfully intervened in male perpetration of domestic abuse towards women for over 8 years, through a domestic violence Prevention Programme that promotes change and healthy relationships. We have taken all that knowledge and experience and are now offering a unique programme for women who are perpetrating domestic abuse against their male partners. Although the reasons for the abuse may be different for men and women, the end result and impact on individuals and families are the same. It can have catastrophic effects and leave lasting psychological damage, especially to children. With our help, women can learn to identify and address the reasons for their behaviour and implement strategies that can stop their abusive pattern of behaviour.