Are you ready to change your behaviour?
This programme is designed for men who want support to recognise their behaviours in relationships, where this is coming from and to change these patterns to increase the safety of those in their life, including their children.
We have been running behaviour change programmes for over 10 years and designed this programme specifically to ensure our services are as inclusive and accessible as possible.
Our current Bridging to Change programme offers both 1-2-1 and group work for men in heterosexual relationships, however we recognise that men in same-sex relationships, or men who may not speak English fluently also need support. As such, this programme is designed for men who do not meet the criteria for our group work, but who want to make positive changes to their behaviour and to help them get there, we provide direct 1-2-1 support.
The practitioner you work with will take a non-judgemental approach, but will assertively engage with you and provide appropriate challenge to your behaviour. Through techniques around Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Mindfulness and others, they will help you to recognise your behaviour, where it is coming from and how to change these patterns.
If you join our programme, you will work through themes such as; respect and negotiation, non-violent behaviour, intimacy and vulnerability, support and trust, sexual respect and child-centred parenting.
Please note: Due to Covid-19 restrictions, the programme is currently running online.
What can we help with?
We work with people in different situations everyday, but common things we can help you to change are things like:
- Jealousy and taking this out on your partners
- Inability to regulate your emotions or anger
- Controlling your partner/s: emotionally, financially, sexually or psychologically
- Screaming, shouting, hitting, punching walls or being physically abusive towards your partner/s
- Intimidating your partner/s and making your partner/s fearful of you
Before I started, I was apprehensive as I thought my abusive behaviour was everyone else's fault, not my own.To say this program has changed my life is an understatement. It shows you how to follow a new path that is non-abusive and non-violent. All the modules help you to change in many different ways and allow you to learn how to be a better person in a close knit, like- minded way
How does the programme work?
After getting in touch with us yourself, or being referred, you can expect the following:
- Initial Assessment: You will work 1-2-1 with a member of our team to discuss the programme in more detail, your history/background and we assess your suitability for the programme
- 15-20 Individual Sessions: You work 1-2-1 with the same practitioner for one our per week, exploring strategies that you can practice
By the end of the programme, we aim to have helped you:
- Recognise that your behaviour is unacceptable and must be challenged
- Change your abusive and controlling behaviour
- Take positive steps to improve the safety of those around you
- Take responsibility for ending your abuse
- Improve the quality of life for yourself and others
In order for us to work with you, you will need to be someone who:
- Identifies as male
- Has some level of awareness of your behaviour and a desire to change this
- Aged 21+
- If you or someone you wish to refer is aged 18-21, please email or call us to discuss
- One or more of the following applies to you:
- You are in a same-gendered relationship. For example; Gay, Bisexual or Pansexual men in a relationship with another man
- You do not speak English as a first language
- You have additional needs which make group inaccessible
- Must live in one of the following areas: Manchester, Stockport, Salford or Wigan
Partner, Ex-Partner & Children's Support
If you choose to work with us to change your behaviour, we request that you provide us with the details of anybody who has been affected by your behaviour. This can be current and/or ex-partners and children if you have them. As part of your agreement to work with us, we will contact your partner and/or ex-partners to also offer them and any children or young people involved some support.
You can learn more about our support for partners and ex-partners here.
You can learn more about the support available for children here.
It is important to remember that changing abusive behaviour is always a positive step to take. Don't feel it's ever too early or too late to decide to change these patterns. If you recognise any of this behaviour and would like to make positive changes in your life, we want to work with you.
If you are involved with Cafcass or Children's Services, please speak with them to arrange a referral to our programme.
If you want to talk to someone right now about your behaviour you can always call the Respect Phoneline on 0808 8024040. It is free from most landlines and mobile phones. An advisor will be there to listen and help. More details are on their website.