Individual Behaviour Change Programme

Individual support for men to address unsafe and unhealthy behaviours in intimate relationships.

Individual support for men to address unsafe and unhealthy behaviours in intimate relationships.

Relationships are complicated and have their ups and downs, but they should never be harmful – physically, or emotionally.

If you are worried about your treatment of current or previous partners, we can help.

 

If you are male and are concerned about your behaviour in relationships, and you would prefer to work on a one-to-one basis, this programme is for you.

Our well-established Men’s Behaviour Change programme (Bridging to Change) offers a mix of both 1-2-1 and group work for men, however we recognise that this format is not suitable for everyone. So we have developed a fully one-to-one version of Bridging to Change.

This work is particularly suitable for you if you do not speak English as a first language or if you are in a same-gendered relationship.

 

How does it work?

If you take part in this programme, we will help you to reflect and understand the root causes of any ‘unhealthy’ behaviours. Our team will also challenge and support you to address any issues and learn how to change things.

 

The term “unhealthy behaviours” can mean different things for different people. More often than not, unhealthy behaviours include some or all of the following:

  • Extreme feelings of jealousy and taking this out on your partner
  • Struggling to manage your emotions, or your anger
  • Being controlling towards your partner, emotionally, financially or physically
  • Criticising your partner and putting them down, for example for things they do, say or wear
  • Behaviours like screaming, shouting, hitting, punching walls or throwing objects
  • Intimidating your partner, making them worried, scared or fearful for how you’ll behave or react

Learn more about what we can help you with

Before I came, I blamed my partner for everything. Now, I realise how much damage my violence did to my partner and how frightening it was for my kids. I want to put things right.
Kallum, programme participant

If you recognise any of this behaviour and would like to make positive changes in your life, we want to work with you.

Remember – our team are here not to judge, but to listen, positively challenge, and help you move forward.

Book an appointment

The programme is open to anybody who identifies as male, is aged 21 years or over and one or more the following applies to you: 

  • You are in a same-gendered relationship. For example; Gay, Bisexual or Pansexual men in a relationship with another man 
  • You do not speak English as a first language 
  • You have additional needs which make group inaccessible 

Once you have referred yourself, you will be invited for an initial consultation with a member of our team, who will explain the programme in more detail. 
 
If you decide to join the programme, you will probably work with us for around 15-20 sessions, delivered on a 1-2-1 basis for one hour per week. However, this is a rough guide and everybody is different. 

Other than your current or previous partners (if you give permission for us to contact them), nobody will know you are attending the programme.

Our service is confidential, which means your information would be treated as confidential except in circumstances where your behaviour posed a risk to others in which case it would be shared with the appropriate individual or organisation.

We always offer support to the partners, ex-partners and children of participants on all our behaviour change programmes.

We do this to make sure that everybody involved has access to the help they need and by coming on our programme, you will be asked for the details of people who have been affected by your behaviour.

They will be contacted separately and offered support. The support we offer them is voluntary – if they would rather not work with us, or are already receiving support from elsewhere, this will not affect the service you receive from us.

Contact Respect

Worried about your behaviour but not ready to book? Access advice and information from national domestic abuse charity Respect via phone, email or webchat.

Contact Respect

Accessing support for someone else

If you're a professional working with someone you think would benefit from our programme, you can refer them directly. Please note you must have their permission to do this.

Make a referral